It could be
quite embarrassing if you think a babe or guy is sexually interested in you and
you make your move, only to see the stunned or embarrassed expression on the
person’s face.
Some guys
would claim that a babe gave them, ‘the come on’ sign, whereas the babe was
just being her nice, friendly and kind self.
There’re many
ways you could react to smiles, a conversation and innocuous questions.
Some people
gets over such mistakes and tend to look back on it with a smile, describing
the situation as embarrassing, but to other people, the ‘the first cut is the
deepest.’ It could leave them scarred for life, becoming psychologically unable
to approach a babe or guy ever.
And yes, I
believe that a babe can woo a guy she’s interested in. Yes, I also know that so
many small minded guys would see her as cheap, but like we all know, many people
just went to count the wall-geckoes in the universities, not to really learn.
An efficient
secretary had a nice boss. He pays her well and always seemed to be genuinely
interested in her welfare.
She thought
the guy was interested in her sexually and hadn’t made a move on her because he
was married. She on the other hand, was heart and soul in love with the guy.
She could never
stop talking about the guy to her friends. One of them advised her to approach
the guy and tell him of her feelings.
She had
always taken pains with her appearance. But on the day she screwed up courage
to express her feelings to her oga, she dressed to kill.
After
getting cold feet on several instances that day, she finally blurted it out. It
was like a weight off her chest.
The boss
nearly fainted.
After he got
over his shock, he almost chewed her life. He felt that was the height of
insult and insubordination and promptly sacked her that same day.
After
working for the guy so long, she wasn’t intelligent enough to know that the man
was naturally nice and giving to people. She read him wrong and it earned a
sack!
Imagine the
nerve, ‘toasting’ your oga! What effrontery! If the guy had been a ‘bad guy,’
he would have ‘chopped her good’ and dumped her later. He was a real gentleman. A rare breed!
How many
guys can turn down such an opportunity of a free romp…yes, I know all romps are
free, but you know what I mean!
Just because
a guy stands with you every day he sees you to exchange pleasantries, doesn’t
mean he wants to date you. A guy can even buy one or two items for you; it still
doesn’t mean he wants to date you either.
One of the
troubles of getting signals mixed is that it could lead to rape. Yes, take that
to the bank!
A lady a guy
just wooed gives him a peck, maybe once and twice and before you know it, he
begins to think she’s dying to feel his turgid manhood impaling her.
Once he gets
her alone, he wouldn’t take no for an answer. If he doesn’t take no for an
answer, what do you think he would do?
That’s why babes
should be very wary in going home with guys that had just met.
In a country
like Nigeria, most men believe that collecting gifts from them means the lady
is interested in them sexually.
Many of them
don’t seem to know that a guy and a babe can have a fulfilled relationship
without sexual strings attached.
Many of
them, who offered gifts to babes, would sooner or later express sexual desires.
If she
declines, maybe shocked at the guy’s behavior or request, they think she had
been playing and leading them on.
During my
undergraduate days, I used to be very careful in accepting gifts from guys.
Many of such gifts are ‘Greek gifts.’
I made sure
I never asked for anything from a ‘toaster,’ except he willing gave such gifts.
We don’t
just know who’s a cultist among the several ‘toasters.’ You don’t know whom you
might collect a gift from and later declined to date.
You just
never know who might plan with other guys to lure you somewhere and gang rape
you. These just because he thought you were interested in having a relationship
with him.
I remember
my course-mate, Sheriff. He was a nice guy. He was quick to smile and laugh.
Even now, I can’t recollect ever seeing him angry. I told him one day that I
liked his personality and that was it, the guy refused to let he rest.
He thought I
was hitting on him. Sick and tired of trying to avoid hurting him, I finally told
him bluntly that I had a boy-friend and was only paying him a compliment. My
heart broke as I watched him shuffled away with his tail between his legs in
defeat.
It was
better I told him…
So before
you make your move, ask yourself if the guy is really into you…or is he just
being friendly.
Before you
get that lady alone and attempt to kiss her lip, be sure she’s into you. A
wrong move could earn you a slap from her…
If you truly
feel in your heart that she had led you on, be man enough to walk away when and
if she tells you she’s not interested in you.
Trying to
show her that you’re the man, wouldn’t do your profile any good and resorting
to rape is even worse.
There’re
many babes who thrive on sending mixed signals to guys. These babes just want
to ‘chop and clean’ mouth. They want to ‘receive’ and never ‘give’ anything in
return.
They play
games with men’s emotions, collecting here and there. It’s not cool, but still
there’re men like that too.
They go from
north to west, banging babes, leaving them high and dry on empty promises.
As male or
female, you should be able to decode and know someone who is genuinely
interested in you.
When you’ve
come to realise that the person is just using you, walk away. You can’t force
someone to love you. This however doesn’t mean that your true love is not
outside, waiting for you.
This brings
me to the discussion of fraudsters, who go about, promising marriages to
matured women. But that’s a discussion for another day.
Meet here
again…
ebere20@gmail.com
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