- Trials of desperate housewives seeking the fruit of the womb in the hands of fake clerics
On wedding days, husbands and wives are told that they’ve become one body and flesh. They are supposed to be two hearts that beat as one.
But the affections that are supposed to be between husband and wife usually fly out of the window and quickly forgotten, especially by the husband and his family, when the wife fails to conceive.
In Africa, women are mostly blamed for a childless marriage. A baby is perceived as the cement that keeps marriages together. A marriage void of a child is seen as useless.
The husband, most times, often bows to his family pressure to take a new wife. The supposed barren wife, most times, is kicked out of her matrimonial home. She’s sometimes accused of having aborted all her babies during her spinster days.
She’s even called a she-man. It’s quite easy for the husband to remarry, but the story of the barrenness dogs the woman into a new relationship, with the new lover, becoming shy at commitment.
It’s because of this situation that a woman who doesn’t get pregnant
within months after marriage, begins to fret and starts moving from
hospitals to churches, from churches to mosques and then to native
doctors. As the years roll by, she becomes pressured and desperate.
In her desperation to get pregnant and keep her marriage, husband and home, she falls into hands of fraudulent pastors, Muslim clerics, herbal and medical doctors. In fact, these desperate women make up a large percentage of worshippers in worship centres.
She narrated: “I got married in October 2007. For six months, there was no conception. I became worried. In search of solution, I ran into a prophet who insisted I must bring N50, 000 for Olive oil for my deliverance. I rejected it. But before I knew it, he went and told my husband that I had no womb. In fact, he went to my in-laws living in Onitsha and reported that their brother (my husband) was living with a man as a wife. My husband instructed me to go to the hospital. At the hospital, the scan confirmed I had no womb.”
According to her, she would later meet a friend, who took her to a church. The church told her to look up to God for solution. She wasn’t asked to bring money. She later got pregnant and delivered a set of twins. She’s however among desperate women, who were lucky not to walk into the wrong church or fall into the wrong hands of a scheming pastor.
The most disturbing portrayal of a wife searching for the fruit of the womb is the video that went viral on social media, in 2013 and is still being re-distributed till date.
The video shows a supposed pastor, having sex with a woman. That the woman was seeking for fruit of the womb became obvious as she responded to the ‘pastor’s’ chat of ‘power enter, power enter, power enter.’
The pastor warned her intermittently in the video to keep her eyes tightly shut if she wanted the prayer to work and for her to get pregnant. She kept her eyes tightly shut and kept chanting ‘power enter.’
While the sex was going on, the pastor’s accomplice was busy recording the sexual act and smirking. A lot of angry Nigerians, who had seen the video, believed the dubious duo used it to blackmail the woman. The incident happened in Delta State.
Mrs. Rachel also narrated how she narrowly escaped being raped by a pastor attached to a white garment church, while she was frantically searching for the fruit of the womb. She insisted she was hypnotized.
According to her, she suddenly felt age was no longer on her side and thought she needed to make a move to ensure she got pregnant. She said she wanted to beat menopause.
She had been meeting with her man, but numerous plays had never yielded any fruit.
She was introduced to a prophet of a Celestial Church of Christ (CCC), at Iyana-Ipaja, Alimosho Local Government of Lagos. The Prophet told her she would have to live at the church for seven days and have a spiritual bath, whereby a ‘holy water’ would be used in bathing her. She would also drink the holy water. If she carries out these spiritual directives faithfully and diligently, she would get pregnant.
Rachel said: “I accepted and embarked on the seven days prayers and Igbele (spiritual confinement) as planned. It was while I was there that I discovered that a rich lady, who works with MTN, was coming there for prayers to get husband.”
She recalled that whenever she was bathing, she would feel someone was peeping at her. Whenever she turns to check out her suspicion, she wouldn’t see anyone. Soon, it was the seventh day.
She said: “The prophet told me that he had to specially give me a spiritual bath to conclude the prayer process. After much hesitation, I agreed. Unfortunately, all didn’t go as planned. The prophet was busy with another guest, so a prophetess in the church decided to give me the bath. I was through with the bathing when the prophet returned. He said he wasn’t satisfied with the bathing that the prophetess gave to me. He told me that he needed to cleanse me between my breasts. He said the thing that was stopping me from getting pregnant was between my breasts.
“He ordered me to kneel and pull off my dress. And without thinking twice, I pulled off my dress and bared my breasts to him. He saw my boobs and suddenly started shaking and speaking in tongues. He dipped his staff into the holy water, removed and placed it in-between my boobs.”
According to Rachel, at that point, she was no longer aware of what she was doing.
She said: “I was actually saved by the MTN lady. She burst into the room and rudely told the prophet to stop whatever he was trying to do. I immediately came back to my senses and got up. The MTN lady said that the prophet had carried out similar procedure on her, leading to him tricking her into having sex with him. She said he promised to marry her. She told the prophet that he and she now belonged to each other.”
Rachel returned home and narrated her experience to her man. The man suggested a visit to a gynaecologist. She went to the hospital, where series of medical examinations and tests were carried out on her. She later had a baby boy.
While warning women desperate for fruits of the womb to be extremely wary and vigilant, in order not to fall into wrong hands, Rachel recalled another incident that left her speechless.
This time, it was a prophetess that snatched the husband of a woman that came searching for fruit of the womb. She said that the incident happened at Onigbongbo, Lagos. The alleged prophetess in question was Rachel’s landlady, Kemisola. She’s popularly called, Iya Adura.
One day, the Engineer’s wife came with thugs to attack Iya Adura. It was during the altercation that the wife told everyone the story of how Engineer abandoned her with five kids.
Rachel said: “In spite of the fighting, Engineer didn’t go back to his wife. Iya Adura told the wife, right in the presence of everyone, that because of what the woman did, she would pay. Iya Adura told her, ‘I only wanted to share your husband with you, but now, I’ll take him from you.’ Engineer’s wife later went blind. She’s still blind till today.”
In 2012, Cynthia, 24, a nurse, had a traumatic experience with a 35-year-old Pastor Dennis Mmadu. The pastor was alleged to have severally had sex with his victim, Cynthia, in order to deliver her from barrenness.
Aside from having sex her at whims, Mmadu also compelled her to pay N21, 800 for the spiritual work he did for her.
Ironically, Cynthia was not even married when she fell into the clutches of the pastor. She, however, became worried after she was told she would be barren for the rest of her life when she eventually gets married. She didn’t want to have a troubled marriage and home.
Mmadu met Cynthia at Igando, off LASU-Isheri Road, Lagos and took her in his car to his house at 26, Oseni Street, New Oko-Oba, in Agege.
Cynthia explained that Mmadu made her to take an oath that she wouldn’t disclose her sexual encounters with him to anyone or else she would die.
Mmadu had sex with her for seven days, and told her that he was anointing her breasts and private part with ‘Holy oil.’
He told Cynthia that the sex was called, ‘Holy sex,’ even though it was without condom.
Cynthia said: “Before he started having sex with me, he told me there was a strange illness inside my stomach. He said that if something spiritual wasn’t done about the strange illness, I would be barren throughout my life. He said I was lucky to have met him. He promised me spiritual healing. He said I would soon become pregnant.”
He showed her some women and men as those who had benefited from his spiritual powers. She later discovered they were his accomplices. She said she didn’t know what came over her.
When it dawned on her that she had been duped, she tried to get her money back, but Mmadu ignored. Angry, she went to report the matter at Igando Police Station. Mmadu was charged to court for fraud, stealing and assault.
The police said the offence was contrary to Sections 36, 44, 312 and 409 of the Criminal code Laws of Lagos State of Nigeria, 2011. Mmadu pleaded not guilty.
The act of exploiting and preying on desperate women shockingly extends to other climes.
A Ugandan pastor, worshipping with the Pentecostal Ministries in Lira District, was arrested by the police in 2016 for sleeping with his female members who were looking for babies. He told them that he had a mandate from God to make them pregnant.
The pastor, who also claimed to have the powers to solve all the personal problems in the world, has also been accused of extorting money from the public under the disguise of giving them special blessings.
He was arrested after series of complaints from some church members over his suspicious activities.
Francis Liiga, a police officer who confirmed the incident, said: “There were complaints from traders in the market that he has been extorting money from them. Some of the women claimed the pastor had been sexually abusing them. There is a scenario where he is reported to have been washing the private parts of these women with what he called anointing water. He asked the victims to put money in envelopes and hand over to him, claiming that if they did so, their financial and personal problems would be solved. He also gave dirty water to some businesswomen and instructed them to pour it on the food they are cooking in their restaurants so that they could attract many customers.”
The pastor denied all the allegations, insisting that he was just praying for those who come to him, seeking God’s intervention on their various problems.
Evangelist Mrs. Abeke Ojo administers a church at Iju-Fagba in Lagos and specialises in praying for women desirous of pregnancy.
She became versed in issues of infertility in women after she faced and witnessed the horrors and travail of women trying to get pregnant. Ojo, before she became an evangelist, sought for pregnancy after being married for 18 years. She revealed one of her harrowing experiences in Kwara State.
She said: “I was locked up in a small room at Offa in Kwara State without food for 14 days during which every night I was flogged by a man I couldn’t see. The herbalist told me I was being flogged by spirits. Nearly at the point of death, on the 10th day, I ran back to Lagos.”
Ojo later got pregnant, but only after she focused on God.
Clearly bothered by the antics of some pastors preying on gullible women searching for fruit of the womb, the founder of Mountain of Fire and Miracle Ministries Church (MFM), Daniel Kolawole Olukoya, warned Nigerians to be wary of false prophets who go around performing fake miracles.
Olukoya recalled the story of a woman who was tagged ‘barren’ and how a so-called pastor had sex with her on the graveyard in her quest for a child.
According to him, too many fake prophets were on the streets, televisions and on radios.
His words: “When you see someone from nowhere or someone just appears from nowhere, when you can’t identify the church where he got born again; you cannot even trace his roots to any church, then you should be very, very careful to associate with such a ‘man of God.’ These men are always in suits and they see visions. The same fake prophets are the same sleeping in hotels with the wives of church members. There was a case of a woman that had been begging God for a child. She went to one of the fake prophets for prayers. The man asked her to sleep with him in a cemetery and the lady slept with him on a grave. But the woman saw a padlock in his hand when she was having sex with him and the padlock was locked during the ejaculation and since then, the woman’s womb was blocked. Her problem multiplied. Another prophet told someone to come to Nigeria, that he must have sex with her before she could prosper. How could a man ask his church members to deposit water in bottles in the church for seven days?”
Alfa Hussein Suleiman, from Niger State, said that ladies in the state were expected to marry early. They are also expected to start child bearing immediately.
He related the story of 24-year-old Fatima. Suleiman said that in Niger State, young girls used to have mass wedding with their age mates.
This was the sort of wedding Fatima had. Unfortunately, all the ladies that got married on the same day with Fatima, started having kids, but pregnancy didn’t embrace Fatima. She became frantic when some of her mates had three and others, four kids.
She went out to seek for solution. She went to one Alfa Anza; today, she’s living with the Alfa and has abandoned her husband and home. The Alfa even had wives and children, but she didn’t seem to mind or didn’t know what she was doing. She had a male child for the Alfa.
Suleiman said: “We wouldn’t have known anything, if not for her best friend. The best friend too was worried. It was the best friend that told us that Alfa Anza asked her to have sex with him. Incidentally, Anza is a family friend to Fatima’s husband’s family. Fatima is very beautiful. Anza didn’t remember his friendship with the family. He took advantage of the lady. We later got to know through Fatima’s friend, that other Alfas had had sex with her, with each promising her that the encounter would produce fruit of the womb for her. My suggestion to women is to be smart and vigilant. When an Alfa starts asking you to do something that’s not of God, you should be alert and leave.”
The General Overseer of Open Channel Church, Gowon Estate, Lagos, a deliverance ministry, Pastor Darlington Ajitemisan, who had earlier spoken with New Telegraph on travails of single and searching women, said that many fraudulent men of God always look for ways to take advantage of women.
He confessed that his wife was also a victim. He explained that he once had marital issue with his wife, then she went to a church for prayer; the pastor told her that her problem, including her business that was nose-diving, was caused by her husband.
Ajitemisan said: “He told her that my sperm, which had been deposited in her, was making her business to fail. He said he needed to use his ‘holy sperm’ to cleanse her of my own. At that point, such pastors would have done something to charm such women. He had sex with my wife.”
While urging women to be wise, he said that one Bishop Mba, a senior pastor in a church in Lagos, approached him, saying he wanted to make him rich and for his church to grow with members.
Ajitemisan said: “He said that all I needed to do was to have sex with 16 ladies for two days. He said my church would grow. He said I shouldn’t worry about the girls, that they would supply them to me. I tell you; such girls usually fall sick, experience strange illnesses and later die. How on earth would I get the strength to have sex with 16 girls? Bishop Mba said that I would be given a drug. I said no. Let me tell you, such pastors are only looking for money, jeep and private jets. Sleeping with women searching for fruits of the womb is not just a game, there’s usually a spiritual and occultist motive.”
He recounted that Bishop Mba said if he agreed, then in every year, four members in his church would die, another two would go mad. “That’s the covenant; the sacrifice I would have to make. It’s all about blood. He said he wanted to free me from bondage of poverty.”
Explaining further, Ajitemisan said that such men of God work under the influence of what is called ‘Familiar Spirit.’
The spirit, which is not of God, makes them to have knowledge to tell a victim truth about their past. The ability of the pastor to tell the women some truth about themselves usually relaxes them, making them to feel they are in the presence of a genuine man of God.
“They use such truths to entice the women. Most of these pastors started well, but lust for money and women were their undoing,” said Ajitemisan.
He disclosed that it had been discovered that some women however, deliberately go out of their ways to seduce pastors, believing that anointing will fall on them and make them pregnant.
He stated: “I had a personal experience. A lady, Nike, came to me, to pray for her for the fruit of the womb. While I was praying for her, she touched my manhood. She said she wanted a man of God, who would have sex with her, so that she could get pregnant. Another lady came, that I should have blood covenant with her, that she just wanted to have kids from me. She was working then with NNPC. She promised me a car, a house and an oversea trip if I agree. She said nobody would know that the kids were from me. I turned her down because I want to make heaven.”
Mr. Nathaniel Ayodeji, a Psychologist, explained that when someone had challenges, whereby she doesn’t know what to do, there’s definitely a need that person is craving for; leading to the person taking the right or wrong approach.
He said: “Naturally, there’s a motivation; the person wants to find a way of solving or meeting that need, that’s what is called motivation. Motivation is the initiation, direction and steps someone takes in order to meet a need. And that motivation is what drives them towards that encounter; they can go anywhere to get it. There’s also relationship between issue of motivation and our emotions. There’s a connection. Remember also that the mind itself has three components; the intellect aspect, which is the reasoning aspect, the will aspect and emotion aspects.”
Ayodeji continued: “Because of the negative emotions, they wouldn’t reason properly. It is easier for people to take advantage of them. These people capitalise on their weaknesses. Remember also that the people these women go to, have emotions. They also are human beings. Once the emotion is high, there’s a problem, because they are not trained to understand their emotions. The natural tendencies are there, so is that chemistry. So, they both can fall into the act before they’ll know that it had happened.
“It’s important for them to see experts, in order for them to be objective in their steps. When they are being driven by high emotions, there’s always a tendency for them to fall into error. My advice for those in the situation is for them to understand their psychological being. When you’re going through a problem, you feel overwhelmed, there’s a tendency to have a psychological problem. Just as people are a physical being, so also they are psychological being. If you don’t understand your psychological nature, you can become a victim. We have a lot of them in wards of hospitals because of a decision taken, leading to someone taking advantage of them.
“They are going through guilty feelings. There is a case where a couple married and had five children. But none of the children belonged to the husband. The wife doesn’t know how to tell her husband. She’s being haunted psychologically. She was later directed to a psychologist, so she could actually pour out her heart. There are so many people, because they are desperate to get something, they’ve done a lot of things. They are now harbouring so much. No matter the issue, people should ensure they take objective steps. Understand your problem nature and don’t let people take advantage of your weakness.”
Founder and Executive Director at Project Alert on Violence Against Women, Mrs. Josephine Effah-Chukwuma, said: “People who call themselves men of God, are using religion to exploit these women. Women need to be wise. Religion has become opium for the poor because of poverty and ignorance. These so called religious leaders, under the guise of religion, do all sort of things to these women who are vulnerable.
“You need to pray on your own. The bible is quite clear on that. God will not come down and do what human beings should do. God uses people, doctors, and medical people to reach out. That’s why we keep having advances in medicine, IVF. Sometimes, miracles still happens when you pray. Women need to be careful of the churches and places they go to. This is end time and there are a lot of fake people. A lot of people calling God are actually calling Satan. Many of them are sexually exploiting these women. They tell them to sleep with them, that their semen is blessed and holy, can you imagine? We hear all these stories; and the women are so gullible. Women should stop being gullible and stop being used by these men under the guise of religion.”
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