They don’t bother to ask the woman where she
gets money. These men are not stupid, just playing smart.
They know
that the money dropped for the house keep or to prepare food would never be
enough to buy tomatoes with pepper, let alone fish, meat and pomo, but they still dropped the nonsense
anyway.
They’ll tell
themselves: 'I know my wife will find a way to prepare the food. She always
does!'
I can bet you that such women have men topping
them. Yes! It means the wife or wives have lovers, who take over from where their
husbands’ stopped…”
That was the
voice of my kid sister, Glory.
You guys
probably understand the nucleus of her argument.
You may not
agree with her, but believe me, there are a lot of irresponsible husbands and
fathers out there today.
They don’t
seem to care or perhaps they simply lack the ability to care or bother whether
other guys are topping their wives for them.
Yes, I said
for them!
How would you
describe a husband who deliberately shirks his responsibilities, forcing the
wife, albeit indirectly, to seek help from another guy, just to make sure her
kids eat, survive or goes to school?
After she’s done with the preparation, the
husband comes home and without asking how she miraculously got money to prepare
such sumptuous meal, gets down to start eating like his life depends on the
food.
Since the
guy outside is assisting him with the feeding of his kids, money to cook and
probably paying other bills in the house, it also means he’s assisting him to
top/bang his wife.
In fact, we
should applaud the other guy.
His job is
not easy O! Aside from assisting his rival, whether the guy wanted it or not,
our other guy also has to sneak and hide just to reach the woman and bang her. He
knows that she’s a married woman. He knows that he could be skinned alive if he
was found browsing her website.
Is that fair
on him? I mean, after he had spent so much! He’s not just spending money; he’s
also spending and expending his much valued natural ice-cream on the babe!
A husband or
lover must be bothered, if he comes home to see a pot of soup worth N5000,
after he gave N2000 to his wife. He should ask questions. He should not take
things at face value.
You may not
know it, but the whole neighbours in the street are probably laughing behind
you, calling you, ‘mugu,’ because
another guy is topping your wife.
How a woman
is supposed to prepare a delicious soup, seasoned with beef, pomo, dried fish and stock fish with
just N2000, beats me.
Believe me;
an average Nigerian guy knows how much it costs to prepare a pot of soup or
stew. When they drop N2000 for such a meal, they’re just playing to the
gallery.
They know
what they’re doing. They want their wives to become Jesus Christ; turning N2000
to N5000. Then the go and give testimony: “My wife is a wonderful woman. I
thank God, he truly chose her for me. She the biblical virtuous woman…”
Such
nonsense!
If a woman
is working, there should be a limit to what she can do to assist in the home
front.
A woman is receiving;
say may be N50, 000 per month? Yet she pays bills and buys clothes for the kids
worth more than that. Then she still has to transport to and from work, from
the money until the month runs out. She still has to cook breakfast, lunch and
dinner from the money and she still has to stock the house.
What’s the
meaning of that? Did the guy plant a money tree at their backyard?
I have
discovered that it’s worst with working class women. Their husbands expect them
to practically run the home, while they stroll about like they don’t have a care
in the world. Some of them even use their own salaries to start surfing for
other women to spend it on, while their wives suffer.
And if you
think it’s easier for women whose husbands are outside the country, then you
don’t know anything!
There are a
lot of good men out there though. They are those who make sure that their wives
are not burdened. They make sure that she has a car to drive around and takes
the load off her feet. Husbands who remember their wives need change of
wardrobes, among other things. Such men are rare, but they do exist. They’re
not a figment of my imagination.
When a woman
stocks the house, it doesn’t mean the raw food will take on a life of its own and
prepare itself. She still needs to go to the market from time to time, to buy
other items unavailable in the house to make soup or stew. She could decide to
make moi-moi or bean cake. She could decide
to make yam porridge or prepare stew with rice.
This takes
money.
A wife who
is not well cared for by her husband, either financially, physically or
psychologically is quite easy to convince to indulge in an extra marital
affair.
Once you
marry a woman, she becomes your responsibility. She’s like your first kid. You
make sure she eats and dresses well. You make sure she’s not over burdened. The
way your wife looks, should be a reflection of how well or bad you’re taking
care of her.
You should do
everything within your power to reduce her stress. But these days, husbands
rather add further stresses to their wives, making her look older than their
mothers.
Why don’t
you care where she’s getting the money from? How she’s surviving? How does she
do it? Where and how the heck does she get the extra dough from?
To be continuedebere20@gmail.com, 08038465069
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