Back to my
argument; balling a married man/babe you love has no point or direction. True,
you don’t need to have sex with a partner because you’re angling for marriage.
But what the heck do you need to angle for in balling a married babe/guy
already happily married to another lady?
If the
person says he/she is crazy about you, has he/she left his wife/husband for
you?
Nope? Go
figure!
If you’re in such a relationship right now,
ask yourself what you’re deriving from it. Ask yourself what you’re hoping for?
If you can answer those questions, you’d know what next to do!
This is what a male friend of mine said about
loving another, while married to another: “It’s very possible. Two people can
be in love and events could override their commitment to each other. One can
get involved with a new guy, but an unavoidable circumstance will tear them
apart physically. They’ll however remain bonded in their souls.”
He’s
right. Sometimes people marry on what we call love on the rebound. You’ve just
crashed out of a relationship, but to fill that vacuum in your heart or perhaps
in a fit of anger, you date and marry the first available guy/babe that comes
your way.
When the
molten anger lessens, the bling rage clears; you begin to feel like you’ve made
a terrible mistake.
Do you
think you’ve made a mistake? Yes, of course, you love someone else, but you’ve
married this guy/babe, what are you going to do? Cuckold him/her or make the
best out of a bad situation?
My
suggestion is you try and make this marriage work! Don’t think the guy/babe
you’ve quarreled with, is going to wait for you to have divorce.
Yeah,
you’re right, he/she could. The call is yours. But don’t make a fool of the new
guy/woman. I know you can fall in love with the new guy/woman in your life.
Just give
him/her and yourself a chance!
There are even situations were some
couples after marriage, fall in love with someone else. This is another cup of
tea.
I don’t think any married guy/babe
would willing go out of their ways to fall in love with another person.
Some couples genuinely want to make
their marriages successful, but end up falling love with another person. Why?
How?
Simple! The husband is too busy,
occupied with business or making money to listen or minister to his wife’s
need. Or the woman is too busy, occupied with her shop, church or pastor to pay
attention to her husband or minister to his needs.
The truth is that, everyone needs
love, attention and affection. If you can’t get it at home, another person
could give it you and before you know it, you’ll will fall in love with that
person.
And if the guy/babe needs to act on
that budding feeling, by embarking on sexual expression, the home becomes
turbulent.
Naturally, most people will want to
go for divorce. Well, if you’re sure of the babe/guy. But can anybody be
certain of anybody when it comes to feelings and emotions these days? But if
you just want to take your chances…Bah wahala!
Agreed many people stay in such
marriages because of their kids. I don’t see why not.
I would be the last person to
suggest to any person to leave his or her marriage because of he/she has fallen
out of love with his spouse and now in love with another.
But again, the call is yours.
A friend of mine said on the issue: “Divorce
is a complicated issue in this part of the world, so most people who find
themselves stuck with the wrong partner end up living this way. There’re complications
like children and how divorce would affect them.”
So tell me, are you in love with
another person, while married to another person. How are you coping? What are
you going through? Come, let’s reason together
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