How girl, 18, was killed by parents for dating Yoruba boy

…We didn’t kill our only daughter, says father

Taiwo Jimoh

Residents of Agility community, located in Mile 12 area of Lagos State, are presently filled with anger. This emotion followed the death of an 18-year-old girl identified as Amaka Nweke.

The girl was alleged to have been beating to death by her parents, Mr and Mrs Mike Nweke for not only dating a Yoruba guy, but also getting pregnant for him and having a baby.

According to residents, the parents were not only enraged that Amaka was dating a Yoruba guy, but a Muslim to boot.  The parents were alleged to have repeatedly subjected Amaka to torture including starving her during pregnancy.

The deceased’s father, however, has stoically maintained and denied touching Amaka, let alone pummeling her to death.

He asked our correspondent: “Is it possible for a parent to kill his own child?”

Mike may have to confront some many witnesses living in his community, who disclosed that he and his wife were brutal to the girl.

Amaka and her boyfriend Ibrahim were said to have met when she was in Senior Secondary School. The relationship later resulted into pregnancy, which her parents fumed and kicked against her.

When she finally put to bed, she had a baby boy, christened Zaeed. Friends said that Amaka went through hell while pregnant for defying her parents.

One of the neighbours’ of the Nweke, who simply wishes to be identified as Adebola, said: “It was unfortunate that we lost the girl in such a circumstance. She went through a lot. She really suffered.”

Adebola continued: “When Amaka and Ibrahim were dating, her parents were always threatening her. They told her that they didn’t want her to continue associating with the boy. What broke the Camel’s back was Amaka’s becoming pregnant for Ibrahim. Her parents were livid and starved of food. Whenever her parent were beating her, some of us would approach, begging them to stop. They used to beat her with different objects even while she was pregnant. Whenever her boyfriend brought food to her, they would allow her to have access to it.”

Adebola explained that when Amaka finally put to bed, her parents couldn’t afford the medical bill. They had to call on Ibrahim’s family, which the latter family gladly paid up before the new mother was discharged from the hospital.

People thought that the move will diffuse the tension relationship between the two families, but the Nweke’s allegedly returned to status quo.

Adebola narrated: “After she was released from the hospital, her parents tried to prevent the husband’s family from naming their grandchild. But it took the intervention of the Chairman of the Community Development Association and some elders in the area before the Nwekes released the baby to them.”

Ibrahim’s mother, Mrs. Ebunola Lawal, who said that she reported the repeatedly beating of Amaka by her parents to the police recounted: “When my son impregnated Amaka, I didn’t reject the pregnancy. I was already used to seeing them together. When it was clear to me that Ibrahim was the owner of the pregnancy, I started taking care of the girl as a daughter-in-law. I, however, noticed that whenever I go to give her foodstuff, her mother wouldn’t want her to collect it from me. I used to force her before she collected them.

“When Amaka was in labour, her parent didn’t inform us. It was Ibrahim who saw her mother taking her to hospital and alerted us. I couldn’t go to the hospital that fateful day, but the following day, Ibrahim went to the hospital to check on her and found she delivered successfully.  When it was time for mother and child to be discharged from the hospital, Amaka parents couldn’t afford the medical bill. They sent for us and we later paid the money. The parents took Amaka and the baby to their house, instead of to the father’s house.”

Lawal recalled that on the eight day of the birth of the child, they went to the Nwekes to name the baby, but were rebuffed.

She said: “We went to Amaka’s house as early as 6a.m. We begged them till 12noon before they finally released the baby to us with assistant of some elders in the community. The parents also gave us two hours to return the baby. Two weeks after the naming ceremony, my husband and I went back to Amaka’s parents’ house to check on our grandchild, but Mrs Nweke prevented us from seeing the baby and Amaka. When the pressure from her parents to stop seeing Ibrahim was becoming too much, Amaka told Ibrahim to stop coming. She said that they would be discussing on phone. She told him that whenever he comes to visit her, her parents would pounce on her, beating her mercilessly. She didn’t like Amaka’s union with my son. The major issue that led to Amaka’ death started on January 1, 2020.  This was after she came to our house to collect clothes for herself and the baby, to celebrate the yuletide. A few minutes after she left our house, she called Ibrahim on phone that her mother had started beating her for collecting the clothes and money from us. I was informed that her parents collected the baby from her and locked her in their apartment and beat her for complete two days.

“It was in the process of beating her that she became unconscious. The parents rushed her to hospital in the neighbourhood and they were referred to Gbagada General Hospital, where she was confirmed dead on Sunday. When Ibrahim went to check her at the hospital, she couldn’t stand up or sit. She just lay on the bed. The most annoying aspect of it was that when they were rushing Amaka to hospital, they gave our four-months-old grandson to a neighbour, instead of bringing him to us to mind.”

According to Lawal, when she heard that Amaka’s parents had beaten her again, she went to the police station at Mile 12 under bridge to lodge a complaint.

She said: “When we went to collect the baby from the woman they gave him to, she refused to release him to us. But out of pressure, she eventually released him. I’ll miss Amaka; she was an easygoing girl. I accepted her as my son’s wife because of her attitude. It was her parents that killed her.”

Ibrahim’s brother, identified simply as Alfa, said: “It was unfortunate that the girl died in such a manner because they didn’t want her to marry a Yoruba guy. There was a day Amaka came to visit Ibrahim, and both of them later came to my house; as I was seeing them off, we saw Amaka’s mother. She was coming to look for her in Ibrahim’s house. Right there in my presence, the woman started hitting the girl and raining curses on her. She warned Ibrahim to leave her daughter alone. Amaka suffered a lot in the hands of her parents because of Ibrahim.”

Amaka’s friend, a nurse, identified as Omotola explained: “When the beating was becoming unbearable for Amaka, she called me, asking that I should rescue her, she said that she didn’t want to die.”

Omotola further said: “I didn’t see Amaka for some days, I became worried. I chatted with her up on Facebook, and she told me that she was sick due to the series of beatings she received from her parents. She told me that Ibrahim was bringing money to her to buy drugs. When I couldn’t bear it again, I went to see her. When I saw her, I noticed that her breathing was difficult and terrible. I didn’t like the way she was breathing. I went to chemist to get her some pain relieving drugs, which I gave to her. Before I left, I noticed she was not improving. I quickly called her father on phone and urged him to take her to hospital. I even suggested taking her to the hospital I work. I heard the following day that the parents didn’t heed my advice. They didn’t take her to hospital that very day. They decided to take her to the hospital the following day. I don’t know why they decided to waste the life of that poor girl. Amaka was punished until she died.”

Our correspondent also located Ibrahim and tried to engage him on the issue of the death of Amaka, but he just wept like his heart was breaking. He didn’t say anything.

His father however, Mr. Lawal Bashiru, said: “When Amaka put to bed, we bought her packs of bottled water, drugs and stuffs for baby and mother. Her parents rejected the items.”

Mike, who maintained his innocence and that of his wife, said: “Is it possible for a father to kill his only daughter, I don’t beat my children. My wife is a woman of virtue; she doesn’t beat our children, she’s not a wicked woman. We didn’t beat her because we saw her going to Ibrahim’s house. I warned my wife to stop disturbing Amaka and Ibrahim. I told my wife that if God said the union was ordained from him, they would live together as a husband and wife. I have never disturbed them. When Amaka fell sick, we rushed her to two private hospitals before we were referred to Gbagada General Hospital where she died..”

When asked about Amaka’s baby, Mike said they left the baby with a neighbour in Lagos to take care of him, because he couldn’t take him to Ebonyi State.

He added: “I’m only going to Ebonyi State with Amaka’s mother and siblings.”

The Lagos State Police Public Relations Officer (PPRO) DSP Bala Elkana, speaking on the matter, said: “We’re waiting for medical report to ascertain the cause of death. Investigation is still ongoing.”