Using condom is a sin

When I first heard that crap, I was mad!
I can’t believe in this time and age, people still believe that using condom is a sin.
How the heck did we even get to the stage where someone is questioning the use of condom?
The saddening truth is that many churches are propagating this silly doctrine.
Indeed, it was a guy who describes himself as an Evangelist that told us in no uncertain term that: “Condom is a sin!”

This belief materialized in the birth of his six children by his wife, who happened to be my secondary school classmate.
Now, you may say that six children is not much, but we don’t know if they might make a mistake and have the seventh child or more.
After all, religious people like our Evangelist brother believe that children are from God and so should be welcomed, no matter how many kids they are. You always hear such mantra: “God will take care of them!” Like they employed God somewhere, to be working and bringing money to them, while theirs is to bang, have fun and keep the babies coming.
Religion is the opium of the masses. It’s the only thing that can be used to tame or control a person, especially a housewife.
I have searched my mind several times on why Ejiro should allow her Evangelist husband to browbeat her into having six kids and still counting.
Perhaps I need to paint the picture with words, so that you can better understand the situation and my anger.
They are both unemployed!
They’ve been unemployed since they met in church and got married. Their marriage is based on what I discussed with you folks some weeks ago; yes, the will of God. They believe God chose them for each other.
Marrying a person, who is not a member of the church, thus can’t be the will of God. It is the ultimate sin.
The guy calls himself an Evangelist and as such, sees no reason or sense in searching for a job. The only job he does is to wait for any church to invite him over, during special occasions to come and preach, after which he would be paid honorarium.
If the condition of his wife and kids are anything to judge by, it means he’s definitely a bad preacher and churches are probably not keen on inviting much.
According to him, God called him to do his work.
Part of his duty on earth, as God’s chosen one, is to bang Ejiro whenever his one-eyed snake becomes hungry. And it appears that his one-eyed snake is always hungry, judging from the numbers of miscarriages that Ejiro had had and still able to produce six kids.
The most annoying thing is that the burden of bringing up the kids falls on Ejiro’s shoulder.
She’s the one who goes from friends to friends, begging for loans, which she will and had never refunded, to start up a business.
The business might be selling of little items like biscuits, chocolate, sachets of detergent, among other things in front of the house. But it usually doesn’t last a month or two before she goes back to another friend, seeking for another financial help.
How can the business last when it’s the source of the breakfast, lunch, dinner, NEPA bill and among other bills? The kids will wear clothes, they’ll go to school and those still wearing pampers will use pampers.
She doesn’t work, but her Evangelist husband is always quick to gobble up whatever she prepares and sets in front of him.
To hell with wherever she was getting the money! He just doesn’t care!
The couple has constituted themselves a nuisance to friends and appeared set in making themselves burden to friends.
And friends who dared to ask them why they keep having kids when both of them are jobless, were told by the self-righteous, sanctimonious husband that using condom or his wife using contraceptive was a sin!
Thus having soothed his conscience with beliefs that are not scriptural or biblical, he continues to blast his wife’s furnace without helmet.
I used to be a staunch member of Deeper Life Bible Church…yes, how holier can you be, than being a member of Deeper Life…Yet I was in the congregation, at Gbagada, Lagos when Gbagada used to be Deeper Life’s headquarter…I was in the church when Pastor William Kumuyi championed family planning.
Kumuyi kicked against couple who used to have many kids and later distribute the kids to different cousins, sisters and brothers to help in rearing them.
And today, a lazy guy, who doesn’t appear ready to work and hiding under religion, is telling me that using condom is a sin. PLEASE!
Ironically, our Evangelist brother used to curse and abuse his wife wherever she gets pregnant. He complained that she used to get pregnant and have babies like a dog! He wanted her to have self control over the way she was having kids.
Jeez! Is this guy real? He wants to eat his cake and have it. Please folks, those of you that religiously inclined, tell me, is using condom a sin?
I don’t believe it myself. How can you continue to have kids you can’t provide for, all in the name of religion? How can you not checkmate the way the babies are rolling out, especially since science has provided a means and ways to checkmate such occurrences?
We have tried several times to urge Ejiro to use contraceptives with our husband not knowing, but she felt it was a sin not to tell him or to use it. And then we told her to refuse him sex, especially on her unsafe periods, she had looked aghast. God, what has religion turned people into?
Sometimes words seem so trite in explaining situations. I wish you had seen Ejiro and her kids to understand. You would have felt for them. Even the Evangelist is not looking well. He looks lean and wears threadbare clothes. Ejiro on the other hands looked like a stick that could be snapped into two and blown away by an angry Harmattan wind.
You may talk of natural methods of curtailing pregnancies like a woman monitoring her circle and the guy embarking on withdrawal method, but these methods fail 85 per cent of the time. I wouldn’t waste my time on them.
Please tell me: how is using condom a sin?
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