My dear man,
I just don’t understand you. You’re completely
overlooking the essence of marriage. Do you love this lady enough to spend the
rest of your life with her? Does she loves and respect you?
If she does crazy things to your heart beat whenever
you hear her voice or footsteps, then she’s probably the one for you.
I read your mail and I fail to see any problem with
your family.
I see only you! You’re the serpent in your own
paradise.
You don’t seem to be sure you love her enough to
want to jettison the issue of age and walk down the aisle with her.
She’s 31 and you’re 29. What is the significance in
that age difference? Nothing!
Your mail is filled with holes. It’s like a puzzle,
demanding I solve it. Your narration is conflicting.
You said your family loves her. Then in the same
breathe, you lied to your family about her age. If they love her, why the heck
would they give a crap about her age?
Have you even bothered to share your fears with her?
Or are you just stringing her along?
If you love her as you claim, you wouldn’t be
bothered about the two-year-age difference.
Love, my guy, is a crazy game! When cupid zeroed in
on you, you’re a goner because you’ll never escape his arrow and the pains and
pleasure that it comes with. Once you’re in love, you do crazy things and take
crazy decisions. Indeed, some people will even say the babe in question used black
magic on you.
Love can burn you if you handle it badly. But it’s a
burnt you’d give anything to experience.
Take me for instance; I’ve known love. I handled it
badly and it flees. Today, I yearn for it.
In this instance sir, I strongly feel that your
feeling is what you need to decipher.
If you love her, you’d marry her. But by starting
your relationship on a foundation of lies, you’re storing heartache in the
barn. The castle in the air will crumble too soon.
I’ve always believe that in marriage, it’s the
feelings of the lovers that matters. You’re not marrying your mother or
family…you’re marrying a lady/guy. It’s your life. And how it turns out, will
always be your call.
Take her today to your parents, look them in the
eyes and tell them that she’s actually 31 and that you don’t care.
Tell them you’re going to marry her no matter what.
If as you claimed, they already love her, then I don’t see the problem.
She’s 31 doesn’t mean she can’t ball you the right
way, does it?
That she’s 31 doesn’t mean she can’t make a good
wife or make you happy.
Life is short, especially once you’re married. If an
older woman will make you happy, grab her!
There’re several men who married women who are older
than them. A lady or guy’s age has nothing to do with having a successful
marriage or relationship.
What is the worst thing that can happen if your
family discovers her real age? Ask yourself that question. And tell yourself
how you’d handle it.
Most importantly, If you’re not convinced about your
love for her…you’re not sure of a tomorrow with her…better let her go.
True, you may break her heart, but soonest, a guy
who knows her worth, will waltz into her heart and make her his woman.
I can’t pretend to understand men like you.
Men, who leave life-changing decisions to their parents
or siblings.
Such a guy is often tied to their mother’s apron
string. They make terrible husbands. They run to mummy always. They lack balls!
Do you belong to that category of men?
I see life/marriage as a stage. Our parents have
played out their part on the stage…the curtain has been drawn…the next actor is
you.
If you’re kid, your parents will wipe your running
nose and clean your bruises, but once you’re a full man…you stop running to
mummy and daddy.
This is why we have this paradox: The boy is the
father to the man.
Better you make decisions yourself, so that when it
succeeds or fails, you blame or praise yourself.
If you make the decision to marry someone, you’ll
give the relationship everything you’ve got. After all, it was your choice. You
live with it!
If your parents make the decision for you, you’ll
forever blame them for every twist and turn in that relationship.
The ball is in your court. You got to take the shot!
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