Don’t ever jump to the conclusion that because he’s not giving it to you, that means he’s probably giving it to someone else.
Nothing destroys relationship faster than lack of trust. When he starts having these moments of lack of interest in sex, try and be a friend.
Naturally, it’s possible for him to make you come, even though he is not interested in sex at that moment. He could make you reach orgasm by fondling your clitoris and suckling it, but believe me, you may enjoy it.
The best form of sex is one shared and enjoyed equally. He wants you and you want him. You’re not carrying out a duty. Neither is he carrying out a duty.
If he’s in the mood and goes down on you, you’d enjoy it because he would want to savour you. But if he’s not in the mood, he would want to get it over with fast.
There is however a pointed problem if he continues to experience this lack of sex for long. As a wife, you may need to try and find out if his lack of interest only has to do with you. The trouble however is this: if he has sexual interest in other women and his manhood gets up and plunders other honeys, he wouldn’t want to tell you, for fear of hurting you. The truth is that men who cheat on their wives are not monsters. It does not even mean they don’t love their wives. For some it’s a game, for others they probably genuinely care about the other woman in their lives. Such affairs are always often over even before it had started.
Since you know he wouldn’t tell you about banging or lusting after another woman, why not try another approach. Ask him what he needs you to do, to excite him. Ask him where you could touch, fondle, caress to sexually excite him. Ask him about his sexual fantasy. We all have one or many. But if after everything, he still remains in his cocoon, then there’s need for drastic decision. But the call is yours.
Normally, such a reaction affects a woman’s self esteem. Every woman wants to be sexually desired, especially by her husband. If he suddenly starts acting weird whenever intimacy comes up, she would start thinking something is wrong with her. In a country such as Nigeria, every bad which is associated with marriage or breakup of marriage, is always placed at the doorstep of women. And I keep telling women to fight such stereotyping. It takes a couple to make a successful marriage, not just the wife.
Another disgusting factor is that some men, for reasons I still can’t fathom, use sex as a tool for punishment. So when some of them start acting like they have no interest in banging their wives, it means the woman had annoyed them in some ways. And such wicked men continue to get away with this sort of punishment because they know their wives can’t cheat on them, while they on the other hand can pummel other women’s honey as they want. You won’t believe that some men who are angry or annoyed with their wives will even deprive the wives of ‘feeding money’ just to show they are the boss at the home front. They care less how the kids feed or pay school fees while the feud lasts.
Let’s also not forget that depression can affect a guy’s sexual desires. He may genuinely be suffering from erectile dysfunctional…there are other factors, not mentioned here, but before you take any decision when sexual frustration sets into marriages, try communication, seek medical help and therapy. Give the relationship everything you’ve got…It’s worth fighting for before you roll those dice and shut the door.
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