Phone sex with another guy (1)

There are too many crazy things people do without thinking twice about its consequences since the advent of the mobile phones in Nigeria.

One of such crazy things is phone sex and sending of nude pictures to complete strangers.

Two weeks ago, I was at a seminar at Sheraton Hotel, Ikeja, Lagos State. One of the facilitators cautioned listeners to be very careful and scrutinize twice, if possible thrice, before uploading or sending out information via internet or phones.

According to her, once you’ve clicked send, it’s already out there. And even if you delete on your end, it still hangs out there. It means someone can stumble on it and use it against you someday.

My kid sister, Glory, told me of a guy who used to send pictures of his penis to a lady. The lady will retaliate by sending pictures of her boobs and her nakedness. To them, they were having a ball.

But the tragic thing is that they are both married to different people. Can you beat that?

And before you say, yes, they’re lovers, does that make it right? They both have kids. What about if the kids stumbled on any of those pictures? You and I know how kids love fiddling with phones even after we’ve bought theirs for them.

I got an email last week from a fan who thinks his wife cheated on him when he was not in the country. His suspicion was based on telling text messages he saw in her phone messages.

The wife denied having a lover, but owned up to indulging in phone sex with a guy.

I told him that there was no sense in breaking his marriage because of a mere suspicion and I meant it. Like I used to tell people, marriage is not a ‘boyfriend-girlfriend’ relationship, where you get to walk out in a huff just because the relationship is not going the way you want.

There are many shits that go down in marriages. Many shits that will give you indigestion, but many you have to stomach.

Leaving one marriage for another doesn’t mean you’re going to have a blast at the second one. Nope! In fact, you may come out from the second badly burnt, than the first one.

In marriages, you have to know when to hold on and when to walk away.
Before I got married, I used to be nuts about phone sex, but no anymore. I prefer the real thing. No apology for that.

It seemed that the more matured I get, the more I detest it. Probably because as I age, I get more religious and reflect a lot about life and death. But be that as it may, I however always give in to it, when my guy wants it.

This brings me to the crux of the matter. If you want a phone sex, why can’t you call your guy and have it with him, rather than with another guy or a total stranger?

Just because someone calls you everyday doesn’t make him your friend. How is it possible to meet a total stranger and begin to have phone sex with him/her?

Quite simple really. There are so many of us, who at one time or the other, must have received calls from total strangers. You really don’t know how they got your mobile number, but there they are, chatting with you.

When you ask them, they’ll tell you that they typed a wrong number and got you. They tell you, it was fate. They begin to chat with you. If you’re a lady, the caller will be a guy. If you’re a guy, the caller will most certainly be a lady.

If you give them room, they’ll begin to chat with you; always trying to get to know you. Some will even give you pet names.

Most of them are fraudsters, while others who fall under that category are jobless idiots.

One of such idiots called me one day and from the sound of his voice, I knew he must be very young. All the scenarios I explained above played out. He claimed to have typed wrong digit and got me.